ual ault causing bodily harm with a weapon?

I was recently ually aulted, beaten and sodomized by a now ex boyfriend. He has since been charged and there is a restraining order as well as other strict bail conditions imposed by the courts. He has a lawyer but keeps adjourning the process and it's been over 7 months now. Two questions..how long can he keep adjourning this, why would he adjourn it since he already has a lawyer? Second question is, I was told by the detective not to attend the public court hearings because HE could get all aggitated if he sees me and approach me, thus breaking his bail conditions, and if he does this, I could get arrested for aggravating him to break his conditions of no contact. I don't understand this law and I feel like I'm being victimized all over again because nobody is telling me what is going on even though I keep asking. The crown attorney will not speak to me and the court services only tell you if the appearance has been adjourned again or if a preliminary hearing has been set. I want to hear what is going on and I'm being prevented. I find this extremely distressing that I could be arrested if he gets upset by seeing me in court and decides to approach me. Is he not responsible for maintaining enough composure in order to abide by the bail conditions?? why does that make me responsible? It's not like I'm provoking him by watching his house all day or something like that. I planned on sitting very far from him, not making eye contact and being very quiet. All I want is to know what is going on and I feel like I'm being revictimized again by being told I could be arrested if he gets too upset at the courthouse just by seeing me there and thus breaking his bail conditionsl. Can some lawyer or law student please tell me the sense in this law??? They are not making him accountable but me in case he approaches me. I thought a courthouse was supposed to be a safe place and open to the public, so why would I be arrested. I have a right to go the the hearings in spite of the restraining order and I feel angry and disappointed in our legal system in Ontario Canada that this is one of the things that I might face if I make an appearance. I am terrifed of this guy due to his ties to a biker gang, but I feel safe in the courtroom and had planned to bring someone with me and make sure no eye contact is made during any time. I do have the composure to do this so someone explain to me why I would be accountable for breaking his bail conditions just by showing up and upsetting him. I'm extremely angry and would like answers. Thanks everyone